emotional child

Living fully, part 3

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How often have you been told you’re being too emotional – especially if you’re a woman? Ever have those days that you can barely hold back tears…. or days when you can’t stop smiling?

Today I want to talk about emotional energy, and how it affects our daily lives. (See Part 1 and Part 2 of this Living Fully series).

Dr. Lynn Rossy taught that emotional flexibility is the ability to “bounce back” from tough situations. She said that we have to think about our emotional energy as a limited resource; meaning, we have to replenish that resource as we use it. This is a different way for me to think about emotions, but it really makes sense.

Start by asking yourself this question: “If I weren’t afraid, I would ____.” Does fear keep you from trying new things? Or worse, does it keep you from doing things you love? Challenge yourself, step by step, in these areas of low confidence.

But be aware that fear is an emotion that will deplete your “emotional reserves,” so to speak. Be sure to treat yourself. Rossy suggests taking yourself on a date once a week. This is something as simple as blocking out 30 minutes to read uninterrupted, doing some shopping, go to a movie… whatever you enjoy that can be some you time.

emotional childI know I have a really hard time with, well, life, when I don’t have some “me” time in my week. Hello being a newlywed? It’s certainly been a transition for us to navigate quality time together – and apart.

Lastly, Rossy gave one more really great suggestion: At the end of each day, write down your happiest moment of that day. After 2 weeks of this, look back at your list. You will probably see some consistencies, and these are the things you should devote more priority to.

Some more activities to “emotionally recharge” include:

  • Deep breathing.
  • Read a good book.
  • Visit or call a close friend.
  • Here’s a great one: take a nap!
  • Listen to some music or sing yourself (be aware of neighbors 🙂 )
  • Take a bath, massage your feet, or go get a massage.
  • Be creative! Write, draw, paint, etc.
  • Spend some time praying or meditating.
  • Do a calming activity, such as Pilates, yoga, swimming or going for a walk.
  • Organize your room, closet, office, etc. Give unwanted things away.
  • Laugh! Watch a comedy, read a funny book or talk to a friend who can make you laugh.

Don’t forget to do your “homework.”

Choose one activity to replenish your emotional energy and build that into your regular routine!

14 replies
  1. Scott
    Scott says:

    Yup, learned this one a while ago. Actually, all of life is a “tank” that needs replenished as we expend it. It is true in all aspects of life, physically, emotionally and spiritually. We also have a “grace” tank that is given us from other people. When we “consume” some grace that we have been given from others (like spouses!) we need to do something to bless them in some way to replenish the tank! Luv ya.

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